Premature ejaculation (PE) does not seem to make people feel as urgent as erectile dysfunction (ED). The reality is that the number of men with premature ejaculation is much higher than erectile dysfunction.
Premature ejaculation is very frustrating. It can destroy man's self-confidence just like how I will feel if you don’t read this article, I will be equally frustrated, but once you create time to read through, I can guarantee that my frustration and your frustration will disappear. The laughter should stop immediately.
According to statistics, about 30-40% of men are uncontrolled or troubled by premature ejaculation during different stages of their sexual life.
God has given us the right to enjoy orgasm and requires us to be responsible for the sexual pleasure of our partner. It is a one-of-a-kind responsibility. When you are unable to perform your duties, depression, self-denial, marriage breakdown, cheating, and other adverse trials are bound to happen. In fact, during sex, most men want to satisfy their partners because it is an innate sense of responsibility.
Now, it's time to find a solution to the problem of premature ejaculation between you and your partner. If you can't get a win-win situation with your partner, don't be frustrated, you are not alone. Too many men have found this golden key and enjoy high-quality sex life and a happy family.
Listed below is what from this guide you need to know about premature ejaculation and treatment.
- What is premature ejaculation
- What is the cause of premature ejaculation
- How to treat premature ejaculation
What is premature ejaculation?
Finding the answer is very simple as you can get close to 20 million answers on Google, but we believe that the problem of premature ejaculation is not how long you last before ejaculation but whether you are satisfied with your fighting time and whether your partner gets the same pleasure in sync with you when you reach orgasm. If you lasted for two minutes and your sex partner also gets sexual satisfaction within these two minutes, I think this battle is a victory for you and a win-win for both of you.
Yes, the criterion for judging is whether the two parties having sex have reached a win-win situation. Win-win is victory, and victory is not premature ejaculation.
If you are a married man, then the criterion for measuring whether you have premature ejaculation is when you satisfy your wife or not during sex. Remember, we are talking about consistency, not once or twice, because it is natural to walk and fall. There are many reasons for premature ejaculation, which we will list later.
If you are still single and have more than one sexual partner, the criterion for judging whether you have premature ejaculation is when you cannot satisfy your sexual partner. In fact, single men may work harder because they need to satisfy more than one woman. If you reach orgasm in a short duration (within about 5 minutes), you can think about the possibility of premature ejaculation. Remember, what we say is possible. We are pragmatists, we don’t rely on textbooks and the so-called experts that only talk about the theoretical aspect. I believe that most people care about practical solutions to have a happy life and nothing more.
What is the cause of premature ejaculation?
Unfortunately, the cause of some problems is difficult to define, and the cause of premature ejaculation has not yet been officially confirmed. According to our understanding of some persistent premature ejaculation customers, it can be traced to some reasons listed below:
- Early negative sexual behavior
Lack of sex education leads to bad masturbation habits, which is the suspected cause of premature ejaculation in the early stage. After entering puberty, boys begin to masturbate instinctively and due to excessive pursuit of results of a high degree of self-ejaculation, the brain is too sensitive to information transmission and is unable to control ejaculation.
An inexperienced man is frightened during his first sexual intercourse or is laughed at for failing to satisfy his partner. Such a blow destroys his ejaculation control system and forms a destructive cycle of self-suggestion after being blown.
Some families or countries are conservative on sex itself and children do not directly receive proper sex education and sexual concepts in the early stages. Even if they secretly taste the sweetness of sex, the process is exceptionally hasty.
Therefore, a person's early sexual experience is enough to establish their future sexual life quality. Therefore, sex education for young people is critical.
- Self-image and social identity
Poor self-image and social identity make many people reluctant to face their reality. Especially nowadays, idol culture is prevalent, and blind worship has caused many teenagers to lack self-awareness. They think it is unacceptable if they fail to meet the standards of idols in all aspects, such as body, muscle, social wealth and status, and so on. For example, constant watching of pornography makes people believe that porn stars' sex process and actions are the standard guides that will finally form their self-suggestion while they don’t know they have entered a kind of illusion.
A young man enters society confidently and wants to do something to prove himself, but life is not easy, but when they face failure and are denied by the outside world, they get frustrated.
Studies have shown that 90% of men and 95% of college men express dissatisfaction with their bodies.
Studies have also shown that poor body image and male sexual dysfunction are highly correlated, including erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.
- Highly sensitive penis
Excessive foreskin is a problem that plagues many men. Most men with long foreskin have high sensitivity penis, so ejaculation occurs after slight stimulation during sexual intercourse. After some patients with severe premature ejaculation are examined, only the friction of underwear may cause their semen to gushes out, even before penetrating their partner's vagina.
The effect of circumcision in adults on penis sensitivity and premature ejaculation is currently inconclusive. However, doctors suggest that phimosis and excessive foreskin should be removed during childhood.
Whether the penis is sensitive or not is controlled by the human brain. Many early sexual behaviors will cause the penis to be too sensitive.
How to treat (stop) premature ejaculation?
Rather than talking about how to cure premature ejaculation, we prefer to talk about how to treat or deal with premature ejaculation. It is not a game of words but a cautious and responsible attitude. If you always try to treat premature ejaculation, you may be trapped by some male medical institutions. But it will be much easier to talk about how to deal with premature ejaculation，because for most people, you only need to have a correct concept of premature ejaculation，that is how to last longer in bed. And we will also show you some methods and techniques for doing great things for free or for a small amount of money.
Most people look for ways to treat premature ejaculation and how to last longer in bed. Why is that? As mentioned earlier, for most people, premature ejaculation is not a disease at all; it is just a factor that doesn’t satisfy both parties or what stops them to achieve a win-win situation during sexual intercourse.
Some men have premature ejaculation or severe premature ejaculation because of their physical or psychological illness, and they need to seek medical attention and be treated immediately or the following treatment options can also be considered:
- Seek a professional male doctor
Although there is no precise and decisive treatment plan like other diseases but surgery can be performed by professional doctors who have rich clinical experience in the treatment of premature ejaculation, and they can give you some good suggestions and plans.
If premature ejaculation causes depression and other diseases, another treatment is needed for depression. There are many mature treatment options for the treatment of depression. For details, you can consult local authoritative medical institutions.
- Seek a professional sexual psychologist
Psychological illnesses caused by premature ejaculation also need timely treatment. Psychologists will arrange treatment plans and procedures according to your specific situation. You need to cooperate to get effective treatment. First of all, you must face actual problems and communicate with the psychologist actively and sincerely.
The Ultimate and Effective Treatment
We have already said that lasting longer in bed is the answer and solution most men need to treat the so-called premature ejaculation. Here, I will discuss and give a few practical and efficient ultimate solutions. This is a leading solution, and subsequent updates will be given until a better drug or surgical solution is available. Please continue to follow us.
- Oral medication
The well-known oral medicine is Viagra, which can make you get an erection even after ejaculation. Though it has specific side effects as a chemical medicine, and long-term use is not recommended, although it can be very effective to ensure you last longer in bed. About any side effects, you can consult a doctor or search for answers on the Internet.
- Desensitization products
The principle of desensitization products is to reduce the sensitivity of the penis, thereby delaying ejaculation. It is straightforward to make you last longer in bed. Commonly used are delay spray, anesthetic creams, and delayed wipes. It should be noted that these products are for external use only, and everyone's skin sensitivity is different. Try a small quantity before having sex, and use them correctly to avoid damage to the skin.
How to use: It needs to be applied or sprayed on the glans 10-30 minutes before sex, bathe or rinse the glans 5-10 minutes before sexual intercourse to remove excess skin surface products so that the products will not enter the vagina which can lead to numbness or reduce the sensitivity of vagina. You can also use condoms as an aid to prevent desensitization products from entering the vagina.
Prolonging foreplay can alleviate most of the problems of sexual disharmony. Men should not be discouraged by their duration because most men are actually like animals，they take out their little brother(penis) at every opportunity and enter the vagina directly but most women like foreplay. A man is like a fire, burns easily, but also extinguishes quickly; while women are more like water, they take time to boil, and they take time to cool down after the water is boiled. It is destined for sexual synchronization to be impossible for men and women.
Studies have shown that only 18.5% of women can achieve orgasm during vaginal intercourse, which means that up to 80% of men cannot satisfy their partner and achieve orgasm through vaginal sex. Up to 36% of women need to cooperate with clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. This is enough to illustrate the importance of foreplay. The foreplay can makes your partner fully boil, and it can also let you to last longer in bed.
- Auxiliary sex toys
Sex toys are as important to men as women. Men can use sex toys to train, but it is not as urgent as using sex toys to assist their partners during sex. The glans training device can reduce the sensitivity of the glans, but it takes a long time, and men can use it actively and continuously.
If you want to use sex toys to stimulate your partner during foreplay, first boil her like water to better synchronize with her so you can meet her during orgasm; congratulations, that feeling is lasting and unforgettable. It means sex toy makes you last longer time in bed.
- Suitable sex positions for men
Seeking different sex positions allows partners to find new treasures. Trying new sex positions can make each other experience a fresh feeling of sex, which is why there are always people who risk (although there are many reasons for a couple to cheat) and seek new sexual partners. You can filter them in our sex position blog for guidance. At the same time, we have shown 300 kinds of sex positions illustrations, which can also make your sex life fun. Let's take action, come on, men.
As far as men are concerned, choosing some sex positions that have little stimulation or distracting stimulus to the glans or non-deep penetrating sex will help you last longer in bed naturally. So which sex positions can make men last longer?
Passive sex positions, such as a cowgirl, women are main activists in this type of sexual position, they can reduce your active attack and last longer.
- Other improvement methods
This method may be the remedy and care for the next generation, but I think it is still useful now.
The main reason for premature ejaculation is because the glans of the penis are highly sensitive, when this glans stimulates the brain nerves, men's response is to ejaculate quickly and experience the pleasure of ejaculation. On the other hand, if your penis's foreskin is too long, it may be the cause of your quick ejaculation. Because the foreskin is too long, it will increase the friction between your foreskin and the glans during thrusting. So if possible, remove the excess foreskin, or it can be alleviated; on the other hand, the early unhealthy masturbation leads to a decline in our brain control. Recall your first experience of masturbating, were you shy? Sneaky? We fantasize about having sex with a woman and begin to masturbate and we psychologically hope that this guilty behavior ends quickly then you do it the second time, the third time and finally, your brain can not control ejaculation. Hence, if you have a first love, you should learn to masturbate with them correctly. It is an essential part of sex education.
If you are still skeptical of the above treatment plan, you can try the following marathon method. Of course, you can go back to the program at any time. Life is short, choose quickly and enjoy a good time of sex.
- Suppress ejaculation training method
Suppress ejaculation training is also called ejaculation endurance training. It is a method of learning how to control ejaculation. This method is not complicated, whether it is masturbation or with sexual partner patience and dedication are critical. Don’t rush, time is the test of your success.
Don't complain about yourself; cope with it actively and stick to it. It is normal to lose control once in the middle and ejaculate early, it is part of the process.
The following are the steps to suppress ejaculation:
- Start regular sex, masturbate or linger with your partner.
- Stop all stimulating activities before reaching the critical point of ejaculation.
- Wait for the stimulus level to disappear.
- Continue to stimulate your behavior, once you reach the critical point of ejaculation again, stop stimulation.
- Repeat 5-8 times. It is recommended to allow real ejaculation at least once a week during the training process and stop the stimulation when other training reaches the critical point.
Ultimately, the brain forms a new control circuit for ejaculation until it feels good and you and your partner enjoy long-lasting sex. At this time, congratulations! You did it.
- Kegel exercise
Dr. Arnold Kegel developed this iconic lower pelvic muscle training program as a course for women with various forms of pelvic floor dysfunction.
Kegel exercises have helped many women tighten their vaginas and repair their pelvic floor muscles, thus achieving a fantastic orgasm experience.
A study showed that up to 82.5% of male patients with life-long premature ejaculation had improved their fighting ability through regular Kegel exercise, which shows that kegel exercises for men to last longer also benefit men.
Squeezing to bend the pelvic floor muscles is like trying to hold back urine which makes Kegel exercise effective.
Squeeze the sphincter to bend the pelvic floor muscles as if trying to prevent a bowel movement.
These are steps for the Kegel exercise:
- Squeeze the pelvic floor muscles, hold for 5-8 seconds in slow motion, and hold for about 2 seconds in fast motion.
- Release slowly.
- Squeeze in a cycle again and repeat about ten times.
This process is repeated once a day in the morning and evening in fast and slow motion, in no particular order, and can be carried out immediately you wake up and before going to bed. Pay attention to maintaining normal breathing throughout the process.
Persistence is victory. Strong pelvic floor muscles are beneficial to men's sexual health in many ways.
Smash premature ejaculation
Almost all men want to master everything in their sexual life. If they fail to do this, they will consider themselves to be losers.
Premature ejaculation is not necessarily a disease, but it is indeed a stumbling block to our better life.
30%-40% of men will deal with premature ejaculation at different stages.
The cause of premature ejaculation is still inconclusive. At present, the information you can see is conjecture or sales guidance. However, it is still essential to develop good habits because it affects not only your sex life but also many other aspects.
Whether you have premature ejaculation is not essential in itself; what matters is whether you are satisfied with your lasting time in bed and whether your partner is also satisfied.
For most people, the problem of premature ejaculation is easy to solve, so we should optimistically understand the problem of premature ejaculation. Although different people may adopt different coping styles, all active responders have actively mastered their sexual life rhythm. At the same time, they have received praise from their partners and positive feedback in life.
If you are still frustrated because you can't control sex, you should completely change this thinking at this time. Would you mind trying it bravely? You can overcome it and experience your dream life.
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